You did it again. Despite telling yourself that you wouldn’t snap at your family, you did. It happened so quickly. You went from 0 to 100; before you knew it, you were yelling and saying hurtful things.

Despite your significant other’s consistent reassurance that they love you and want to stay with you, you automatically think they will leave whenever you make a mistake or disagreement (despite the size). You tell yourself, “Why would they stay? They deserve someone better. They will leave me just like everyone else anyway.”

You’ve tried getting to bed earlier, taking melatonin, making your room darker, and even investing in a fan or turning on the AC, but you still have difficulty sleeping. Your thoughts are nonstop. They start reflecting on your day, your previous week, your to-do list for the following day, and your past, which seems to impact all of it. Next, you look at the time and only have 2 hours to get some sleep before starting your day.

You both feel frustrated by the constant arguments and often make conscious efforts to avoid, conflict, yet disagreements seem to arise more often than either of you would like. It feels as though you’re both walking on eggshells, carefully choosing your words to prevent tension. Despite those efforts, conversations frequently escalate into arguments, leaving both of you feeling unheard, hurt, and disconnected.